My favourite book

Today i am going to tell you about the book

which has influenced me a lot.

It is Lean in

Was written by Sheryl Sandberg

the chief operating officer of Facebook

A couple of months ago

After 2 months sweated blood

to complete 2 big final exams

I totally exhausted 

And stressed out

Despite the fact that

I did prepare for the test well

I read almost the books

And finished all the test questions

I still was anxious about the results

Exhausted

Stressed

Anxious

təˈdeɪ ˈaɪ əm ˈɡəʊɪŋ tə tel ju əˈbaʊt `

That is why

one day

I unexpectedly decided to escape

back to nature

find peace

I got the last ticket

To da lat

At 10 pm

I chose to live in a nice detached house with spacious rooms

In the suburb.

In the morning

I cycled from here to the center 

On the way to my favorite coffee shop in DL

I came across

A nearby bookstore

I realized that

I have not been to a bookstore for ages

I have not read any books but medical textbooks

I came in

A face of a middle aged lady

On the cover

Catched my eyes

I flicked through the book

And easily got into it

I Found myself in that book

Through the author’s personal stories

Not only me

Not only women in VietNam

But also she

Western women have the same barriers

No matter where you are on earth

Many women start making

career decisions

based on family responsibilities

they do not yet have

turn down projects

don’t apply for promotions

make room for children

they don’t yet have

like me

I tend to choose a speciality

which I can have time to take care my future children

even I don’t have boyfriend yet.

Same as Sheryl

She did refuse a higher position once

Which demand her to move to another state

That hard to find husband.

Another thing she point out is

the fear of putting ourselves out there

Men will apply for jobs

if they think they meet

just 60 percent

the job requirements

while women

will apply only if

they think they meet all of them.

I did more than once

Experienced that problem.

Furthermore

Women tend to

underestimate their performance

while men tend to overestimate theirs.

And they attribute their success

to innate skills

women often point to external factors

like luck and help from others.

These are just 3 examples

In so many gender differences

That book shine a light on

These are the ways

women are held back

ways

we hold ourselves back

 

It’s difficult

to change the way you feel

but you can change

the way you think and act

 

When you feel insecure

remind yourself that

you’ve earned your position

Then take a seat at the table

raise your hand

surprise yourself.

When you’re faced with a challenge

remember that

the man sitting next to you

likely thinks he can do it.

if he’s right

you

can do it too.

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How do you want to feel? *English text with IPA phonetic transcription VERSION*

I have a question aɪ həv ə ˈkwɛsʧən
I would like you to think about aɪ wəd laɪk  tə θɪŋk əˈbaʊt
HOW do u WANT haʊ  juː wɒnt
to FEEL? tə fiːl?
For me fə miː
I Want to feel Alive aɪ wɒnt tə fiːl əˈlaɪv
I Want to feel Grateful aɪ wɒnt tə fiːl ˈgreɪtfʊl
I Want to FEEL aɪ wɒnt tə fiːl
Like I took advantage laɪk aɪ tʊk ədˈvɑːntɪʤ
Of every Opportunity əv ˈɛvri ˌɒpəˈtjuːnɪti
In my life ɪn maɪ laɪf
In 2013 ɪn 2013
My little younger brother maɪ ˈlɪtl ˈjʌŋə ˈbrʌðə 
Decided to dɪˈsaɪdɪd tʊ
Study abroad ˈstʌdi əˈbrɔːd 
In NEW ZEALAND ɪn njuː ˈziːlənd
Also known as ˈɔːlsəʊ nəʊn æz
the land down under ðə lænd daʊn ˈʌndə 
That’s mean ðæts miːn 
He is Not hi z nɒt
At home ət həʊm
4 at least 1 year ət liːst 1 jɪə
That’s mean ðæts miːn 
He lives hi laɪvz
Far from home fɑː frəm həʊm
For The FIRST time fə ðə fɜːst taɪm
My mom and dad maɪ mɒm ənd dæd 
Was so anxious wəz səʊ ˈæŋkʃəs 
THAT’S WHY ðæts waɪ 
2 weeks later from the day he got on the plane wiːks ˈleɪtə frəm ðə deɪ hi gɒt ɒn ðə pleɪn
I was sent to there aɪ wəz sɛnt tə ðeə 
To New Zealand tə njuː ˈziːlənd
for taking care of my brother. fə ˈteɪkɪŋ keər əv maɪ ˈbrʌðə.
You know jʊ nəʊ
He lived in a homestay hi lɪvd ɪn ə homestay
went to school wɛnt tə skuːl
5 days a week deɪz ə wiːk
From day to night frəm deɪ tə naɪt
What i supposed to do wɒt aɪ səˈpəʊzd tə duː 
for him? fə hɪm?
Once in a lifetime wʌns ɪn ə ˈlaɪftaɪm 
My mom my dad were not there maɪ mɒm maɪ dæd wə nɒt ðeə
I were here in this beautiful country aɪ wə hɪər ɪn ðɪs ˈbjuːtəfʊl ˈkʌntri 
What I supposed to do? wɒt aɪ səˈpəʊzd tə duː?
Travel around nz ˈtrævl əˈraʊnd nz
And ænd
Explore the heaven on earth ɪksˈplɔː ðə ˈhɛvn ɒn ɜːθ
It was not a bad idea. ɪt wəz nɒt ə bæd aɪˈdɪə.
And that’s what begin ənd ðæts wɒt bɪˈgɪn
On day 1 ɒn deɪ 1
On the big cruise ɒn ðə bɪg kruːz
Through 2 islands θruː 2 ˈaɪləndz
I was so excited aɪ wəz səʊ ɪkˈsaɪtɪd 
like in a dream laɪk ɪn ə driːm
The sky is blue ðə skaɪ z bluː
The water is clear ðə ˈwɔːtə z klɪə
The boat is followed by a school of dolphins ðə bəʊt s ˈfɒləʊd baɪ ə skuːl əv ˈdɒlfɪnz 
But that is not thing bət ðət s nɒt θɪŋ 
I gonna talk today aɪ ˈgənə tɔːk təˈdeɪ
The story is ðə ˈstɔːri ɪz
I’m getting cold aɪm ˈgɛtɪŋ kəʊld
I went inside aɪ wɛnt ɪnˈsaɪd
and sat down ənd sæt daʊn
Next to an old lady nɛkst tʊ ən əʊld ˈleɪdi
She broke the ice ʃi brəʊk ði aɪs
Started a conversation ˈstɑːtɪd ə ˌkɒnvəˈseɪʃən 
At that time ət ðət taɪm
I found that aɪ faʊnd ðæt
I m a keen listener aɪ ɛm ə kiːn ˈlɪsnə
I nodded my head and smiled aɪ ˈnɒdɪd maɪ hɛd ənd smaɪld
Automatically ˌɔːtəˈmætɪkəli
She asked ʃi ɑːskt
While I answered quite shortly waɪl aɪ ˈɑːnsəd kwaɪt ˈʃɔːtli
→ lesson number 1: Keep a face-to-face conversation going: fail  ˈlɛsn ˈnʌmbə 1: kiːp ə feɪs-tuː-feɪs ˌkɒnvəˈseɪʃən ˈgəʊɪŋfeɪl
Another day əˈnʌðə deɪ 
When I set foot on the land of adrenaline sports wɛn aɪ sɛt fʊt ɒn ðə lænd ɒv əˈdrɛnəlɪn spɔːts
Where you can weə juː kæn
Jump over the bridge ʤʌmp ˈəʊvə ðə brɪʤ
Jump from the top of a mountain ʤʌmp frɒm ðə tɒp ɒv ə ˈmaʊntɪn
It seem like ɪt siːm laɪk
Everybody there ˈɛvrɪbɒdi ðeə
All did it once ɔːl dɪd ɪt wʌns
Why not I give a try? waɪ nɒt aɪ gɪv ə traɪ?
After that ˈɑːftə ðæt
I took the phone aɪ tʊk ðə fəʊn
Pressed the number prɛst ðə ˈnʌmbə 
Booked a time for jumping bʊkt ə taɪm fɔː ˈʤʌmpɪŋ
From the mountain frɒm ðə ˈmaʊntɪn 
À há À eɪʧá
So awesome huh? səʊ ˈɔːsəm hʌ?
What’s your name wɒts jɔː neɪm 
The lady on the phone asked ðə ˈleɪdi ɒn ðə fəʊn ɑːskt 
Easy one ˈiːzi wʌn
I said my name aɪ sɛd maɪ neɪm
She asked some questions ʃiː ɑːskt sʌm ˈkwɛsʧənz
Everything seems ok ˈɛvrɪθɪŋ siːmz ˈəʊˈkeɪ
Then the only thing I need to do is ðɛn ði ˈəʊnli θɪŋ aɪ niːd tuː duː ɪz
waiting for the confirm email ˈweɪtɪŋ fɔː ðə kənˈfɜːm ˈiːmeɪl
I waited from aɪ ˈweɪtɪd frɒm
Morning ˈmɔːnɪŋ
To Afternoon tuː ˈɑːftəˈnuːn
Evening ˈiːvnɪŋ 
Morning the day after ˈmɔːnɪŋ ðə deɪ ˈɑːftə
I got No mail?!? aɪ gɒt nəʊ meɪl?!?
What’s wrong wɒts rɒŋ 
Sth wrong isnt it? Sth rɒŋ isnt ɪt?
Thank for the girl in my hostel θæŋk fɔː ðə gɜːl ɪn maɪ ˈhɒstəl
She called to that sport office ʃiː kɔːld tuː ðæt spɔːt ˈɒfɪs
To ask for me tuː ɑːsk fɔː miː
U know what? juː nəʊ wɒt?
The lady on the phone ðə ˈleɪdi ɒn ðə fəʊn
Write my information WRONG raɪt maɪ ˌɪnfəˈmeɪʃən rɒŋ
My email adress: wrong maɪ ˈiːmeɪl adressrɒŋ
So that’s why mail didn’t come səʊ ðæts waɪ meɪl dɪdnt kʌm
The lady on the phone so wrong ðə ˈleɪdi ɒn ðə fəʊn səʊ rɒŋ
→ lesson two: telephone converstion: fail  ˈlɛsn tuːˈtɛlɪfəʊn converstionfeɪl 
So think about that səʊ θɪŋk əˈbaʊt ðæt
What if wɒt ɪf
It was Not Just A Trip ɪt wɒz nɒt ʤʌst ə trɪp
What if wɒt ɪf
It was ɪt wɒz
A career development scholarship ə kəˈrɪə dɪˈvɛləpmənt ˈskɒləʃɪp
That can build your job ðæt kæn bɪld jɔː ʤɒb 
At a higher level æt ə ˈhaɪə ˈlɛvl
How do u want haʊ duː juː wɒnt 
to FEEL? tuː fiːl?
I want to feel alive aɪ wɒnt tuː fiːl əˈlaɪv
I want to feel fulfilled aɪ wɒnt tuː fiːl fʊlˈfɪld
I do not aɪ duː nɒt 
Want to leave wɒnt tuː liːv
Any experience ˈɛni ɪksˈpɪərɪəns 
With regrets wɪð rɪˈgrɛts 
It is ɪt ɪz 
Never too late ˈnɛvə tuː leɪt
Thank for Nz to point out θæŋk fɔː Nz tuː pɔɪnt aʊt
My weakness maɪ ˈwiːknɪs
For me fɔː miː 
With english wɪð ˈɪŋglɪʃ
You and juː ænd 
I
Can kæn
Unlock every dream we have. ʌnˈlɒk ˈɛvri driːm wiː hæv.

A Comment to Grit Ted Talk

This Ted talk pointed out a brand new approach to predict ability of success. This task is related to a new definition of Grit. It is defined as passion and perseverance for very long-term goals, especially most of them are impossible goals and eventually succeeds in that goal.

This preditor »Grit » was proved not only from many well-set psychological researches but also from world class performers. High achivement people share the same characteristic which is not found in their peers. They are tenacious, dogged or perservering as well. In addition, it is not just the hours of work that they are putting in, they are putting the hardest kind of work in. In other words, the top performers are more likely to challenge themself in a very uncomfortable place for some part of day, work extremely hard and then get up and do it all over again and again.

For me, this Ted talk gave me a belief. I did not start of as one of the gifted, actually I have a quite ordinary mind but it does not mean it is impossible for me to gain skills and reach the top of my career. In fact, I did prove it once and indeed I have experienced my own great Grit story recently. During my final term, I had a big test known as the entrance test to medical residency program. At that time, I have viewed myself as a ridiculous, sickening workaholic . While other people is sleeping, I am working. While they are eating, I am working. It can be denied that I had a very specific interest, focus and a lot of zeal and hard work in order to pass this exam. As a result, I achieve it.

In term of learning English, it is not an exception of Grit rule. Even if I were not a good student in school, English (and in fact anything) is possible. All I really need is motivation and a decent method for doing it. Learning English is a long-term process and surely it is not an overnight success. I can not have it, I can not get it until I do it. Anyway I am still on the way but with a decent direction, so I believe I will nail it.

A Grit example from the folk tale

When I was a child, I was told the story about a rabbit and a turtle running a race. Despite the fact that rabbit was faster than turtle, but the turtle still kept walking step by step by step all this time. He never quit no matter how hot or tired he got. He just kept going. At the end, surprisingly, the turtle won that race.

From a psychological perspective, in this case, this turtle from the old folk tale was gritier than the rabbit. This race required a lot of stamnia to win. As you can see, the turtle, for sure, has passion and perseverance for that long-time goal. Compared to the rabit, while he obviously has ability to run faster than the turtle, he did not succeed eventually. The ending of the moral story is now explained from the science view.

The real achievement

When I was a student, I rarely raised my hand to answer the teacher’s questions. I was afraid of being laughed at if I answered it wrong. Then I went to the university, I was not an outstanding student. In class, I listened to the bit that I was interested in and I studied enough to pass the exam. Not too much, not too little, just right.

In my final year, I had 2 big latest examinations, one was graduation test and one was the entrance to study post graduate medicine as a resident. The latter one is the toughest test that can only taken once in a doctor life. Furthermore, they just took 5 medical students in whole students in my course for ENT program. It was actually a race in the literal meaning. Thus, everybody was very surprised when I decided to apply for this test.

After that decision, I focused more on studying. I sweated blood to make my dream come true. I studied more than 15 hours per day, 7 days a week. There was no party, no cinema, no hanging out after class for over 8 weeks. This was the routine that I followed during the last semester of my final year.

I had this dream of working and somehow securing a high position at my dream specialty. As I thought more about the real reason I wanted that dream, I realized that it was to prove to everyone that I, an average student, could get to the top of the industry. I wanted to achieve what seemed like an impossible feat to me. Yeah, this would be something I love to do, but I would be doing it for the wrong reason. I would probably be able to proudly tell people about my accomplishments during a high school reunion, or I could trumpet my successes on Facebook for everyone to see. I pictured impressed faces and maybe some applause. So, in the end, I’ve had my successes, proved them wrong, people probably felt sorry and ashamed for belittling me. But then I sudden realized that it is still my life, and whether I succeed or not, ultimately it doesn’t affect them. For the first time, I thought to myself that, acquaintances care less about me and my successes or failures than I thought they would.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that being happy and successful might be the best revenge, but then I found out the fact that being successful just in order to show them, I was not truly happy and satisfied. There will always be something for people to criticize- your career, your body, your personality, etc. There will always be something that is imperfect in their eyes. While I used to have definition of “success” – great jobs, big fat checks, a big house, big cars, at the moment I’d say you’re successful if you’re living the life you dreamt.

The real achievement I have done so far is not my test result, it is my new definition of success.

Why do you want to study English?

When i was in grade 6, my learning English journey began. English was one of compulsory subjects since secondary school. As most subjects, after class, I took extra course in the English centre. Taking the entrance test, getting a class, taking the final exam, passing it and moving to the next level were likely continuous steps of a circle process. It seems like that there was always something would happened, for example summer vacation, marathon preparation for exam season at school…, then, broke my learning-english-circle. After each interruptions, I came back to English class. Despite the fact that I had been reading my medical book in english at home, making english as default language on my laptop, mobile phone and even learning english through television and music, I still started at the same level as before I left. It made the process became a vicious circle as the pathology circle I learnt in medicine school. It mean I felt so desperate, hopeless for my endless learning road.

 Why I do want to improve my english, especially why I choose Liu Luoi class is my another story. In 2013, my little brother suddenly decided to study high school in the land down under. This also meant that he lived far from home for the first time, my parents was anxious. 2 months later from the day he got to the plane, 6-year-older-sister was sent to New Zealand to look after him. 30 days, in total, in a real english-speaking-country, I got lost, missed the bus and packbacked around Nz by my own, but I suppose not to tell you that adventurous story. The fact I want to mention here is that there is no such things as impossible, I can survive in 30 days with lots of joys without advanced english. However it doesn’t mean I were deeply alive in 30 days. If I had been able to speak English more fluent, I would have done it a better way. I would have communicated more with the locals and my roommates. I would have been able to understand more about the stories told by packbackers from all over the world I had met on the trip road. I would have booked tours successful through telephone calls instead of emails. Looking back that past time on a learning-English-view, I call it a hit cause it gives me the realistic reasons why I definitely have to improve my E, cause it points out my weaknesses clearly more than anyone has done. They are also what I expect to improve after finishing Liu Luoi class.

 At the same time, my secondary motive is that I want to build my career at a higher level. After I sweated blood to have the permission to work as a resident at a qualified hospital in HCM city during the last semester of university, I am not allowed myself to miss any career development scholarships. If I have a chance, I must be prepared well.

 As a doctor, I have taught to be always on hard working mode. I am aware that studying medicine is a continuous process, as well as learning English. They are both not overnight successes. I have to build a deliberate and ongoing planning process and I have to keep at it. Another explanation why I take part in Liu Luoi class is that I hope I can get inspired from the hard-working successful teacher.

 In conclusion, I want to feel like I took advantage of every opportunity in my life. I want to feel alive, I want to feel grateful. I do not want to leave any experience with regret. With english, it will help me to do that.


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